Date your spouse.
It’s marriage advice. You’ll hear it at weddings. You might even hear it repeated at a baby shower. It’s advice for empty nesters or retirees too, although that’s a guess. I haven’t reached that point in life.
The fact that it is a piece of advice will tell you it’s hard. Dating your spouse is hard.
Babies are good at putting out a rockstar couple’s fire. Really good, like rolling in on a firetruck with a water hose. But I’m not here to tell you that. You know. You also know it’s not always the kids. It’s stress too – the adult kind of stress that no one sees coming. A job loss. A breast cancer diagnosis. Losing a baby. Caring for aging parents. Life will throw something at you.
Even the day-to-day repetition can turn a marriage from for better into for worse. This isn’t a sad post. It’s a real one.
Date your spouse.
What kind of date? Well, that’s up to you.
I’ll tell you one of my favorite dates – feed me and take my dirty dishes away.
For better is red lipstick. It’s watching Scott knot a tie even though he changed his mind later and went with a cowboy shirt instead. It’s curling my big hair. Scott trims his beard. He won’t shave it all because he knows I love his beard. For better is when Scott kisses my hand in the car on the way to our dinner date. I’m driving, of course, because I wear the pants in the relationship. That was a terrible joke, Scott. I’m sorry. For better is a dress and high heels. The heels that are just high enough to put me face-to-face with Scott. I love being his equal. He opens the restaurant doors for me and lets me walk in first.
For worse is putting in our name and waiting. It’s staring at other couples waiting. Everyone is on their phones.
For worse is making a mental note who was waiting before you. It’s our night, not theirs.
For worse is knowing you’re paying a babysitter to watch the kids while you stare at a hostess. You question if you remembered to give her your name after asking how long the wait is. Yes, I have done this before and Scott will never let me live it down.
Romance shouldn’t come with a wait.
Fyllan (pronounced “fill-in”) is a new restaurant app for your android or iPhone. I got to try out the app on Friday. We never waited for a table at Rozzelle Court Restaurant in the Nelson-Atkins Museum in Kansas City. Scott and I checked in by showing the app code and we were ushered directly to our table.
The app works in real time so you never have to call or book a reservation days in advance. The app is free to download.
The app is easy to use. We picked a restaurant from the map.
We wanted a restaurant with ambience. Oh, I don’t know, maybe a 15th-century Italian courtyard ambience. And live music! Sold.
Rozzelle Court Restaurant at the Nelson-Atkins Museum.
We booked two guests for a 7 pm dinner time on July July 21, 2017.
Each restaurant will display a price to book. The price is determined by the restaurant according to the average ticket cost. This cost, paid on your credit card at time of booking, is used as a credit towards your final bill. The credit will also cover gratuity. Restaurants may list specials or additional options such as “meet the chef.” Fyllan charges 10% of your final bill for its service. Fyllan will make sure you’re dating – not waiting.
And rest of your night is yours.
Thank you Rozzelle Court Restaurant and the Nelson-Atkins Museum. I am not a food blogger or even a foodie but you sure do make me look good on a Friday night.
And Fyllan – thank you for giving us a date night without the wait.
Scott still knows how to make me laugh for the better.
Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art in Kansas City, Missouri.
And don’t forget to buy my book, “But Did You Die?”