The weddings turned me into an alcoholic.

I’m kidding about the title.

My liver is in remission. There are no more weddings on the calendar. My muscles are still twitching from the soul of Michael Jackson racing through my body during The Way You Make Me Feel on the dance floor.

We had a rush of friends profess their love in front of us this year. Not only this year but within the span of two months. One wedding sent me walking home with a tramp stamp. Another wedding pushed me off to the airport with a hangover. And the last wedding left me with nothing else to write about but I can’t move out of bed and weddings are turning me into an alcoholic.

I have been told that my blog is enjoyable to read because I don’t sugarcoat my life. I will never post a picture of Scott with the caption, “best hubby ever.” Nope, I won’t do it. Because he’s not. And Scott will tell you that I’m not the “best wife ever.” I am not. We don’t like making people roll their eyes and fake puke.

Scott and I fight. We get sad. We get annoyed with each other. We disagree.

But we also make each other laugh. We are happy. We love each other. We are honest with each other. We are human.

As a wedding guest, I don’t get a microphone in one hand and a whiskey in the other but I do get a hangover and a laptop.

To the new wives – my wedding was in an era before Pinterest. I’m jealous of the little touches you put into your weddings. My marriage has come a long way. I have learned a thing or two you won’t find on Pinterest.

  • Sex is fun. You will forget this as years go on. I don’t know what’s to blame for that – kids, hormones, age, lack of energy, boredom, all of the above. Sex shouldn’t be something you do occasionally. Be the woman. Let your hair down. Let your hair down a lot. He will never get bored with you. Go do it when you’re done reading this.
  • Men need affection. Men want hugs. He wants to be held. When he walks in the door, run to him and wrap your arms around him. He is your best friend. Best friends give hugs all the time. You will get a hug in return.
  • Accept that you will argue. If you don’t argue, you’re a liar. Here’s a teaser: Ask him what your kids’ names should be.
  • Fine, storm out. Make a scene. He will come back even if you say NO to naming your kid’s middle name Duane.
  • You’re not always right. Don’t think just because you are a woman, you are right. Sometimes he is. And sometimes God blesses you with girls so you never have to name your son Duane.
  • Hand holding in the car is essential. 
  • So are dates. Splurge on the dessert.
  • Weddings count as dates. He’s reminded you’re his own bride. You’re still the prettiest one in the room.
  • Let him have a hobby. Let him go without restrictions. He will understand when you find your hobby – such as writing about his ass, hunting all the time.
  • Find a hobby together. If salt water fishing is your couples thing even though you live in Kansas, well, hey – at least you have something to look forward to.
  • Make fun of each other’s grey hair and wrinkles. You’re growing old together. Laugh about it.
  • Don’t complain about your body to him. If you don’t like it, then fix it. He loves it. It’s you that doesn’t.
  • Be attractive. But in a way that’s only for him. If he likes your hair long, wear it long. It works both ways, you can give him the evil eye when he tries to shave his beard.
  • Let him know at the beginning that you don’t like to cook. Or clean. The expectations are much easier to meet.
  • Remind yourself the best day of your life was marrying him. Some say giving birth is the best day of their lives. Maximum pain levels and a fire crotch might be yours too. But remember that the kids leave the house. He won’t. Your family started on the day you professed your love in front of your family and free loading, alcoholic friends.
  • Get up and dance together to The Way You Make Me Feel at your friends’ weddings. 


How many years have you been married? Did you get married before Pinterest was invented? Do you have advice for newlyweds? Do agree or disagree with my list? Have you ever busted a move to MJ on the dance floor? 


14 thoughts on “The weddings turned me into an alcoholic.

  1. Hi Julie! I’ve been out of commission for a while although I did come out of hiding today. As a matter of fact, I wrote about hunting and guns. You will appreciate it. 🙂

    I absolutely love this list. Even if you were hungover when you wrote it. 🙂 Every single item is right on. Especially the sex is fun one! We are celebrating our 25th this month and although we are not perfect and never will be, it’s been a fun ride!

    We love going to weddings because they do remind us about the younger days and confirm that we still like each other. 🙂


    1. I’ll go check out your blog now! I’ve been behind on my reading…busy month for us! I finally have some free time.

      I do love how Scott looks at me at weddings. I love dancing with my dad at weddings too. It’s all about love.
      Congrats on your 25th!! Go fishing!! Ha! 🙂


  2. So…I’m not married…I don’t even have a date for Thursday…but I will say this made me really warm inside. It was a very heartfelt and sweet way to look at all the good in one’s life and to take a moment to enjoy the little things. I plan on making sure if I am blessed with a wife that I send her to you for advice! 🙂


  3. We have combined some of things on your list, because we’re efficient that way. For example, we have accepted that we will argue so well that we have made a joint hobby out of it. Also, my wife told me that she doesn’t like to cook and then let me make that my hobby.


  4. This is awesome! What a great list of advice – spot on! We’ve been married for over eleven years {no pinterest wedding here!} and together for almost fourteen. We’ve had the crappiest year of marriage yet, honestly. But we are working through it, and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done – harder than having two kids or raising them or losing a parent – but very important. It’s like “This is 40!” Thank you for speaking so honestly about marriage.


    1. Thank you! You only have one year up on us. 🙂
      You are right – marriage is harder than raising kids. We have been through a rough year or two as well. For me, it helps to write. Clears my head. Scott and I are getting better at what we need from each other. Writing a light-hearted but honest post on my blog helps me realize we are all human.


  5. Geez, did I forget to comment? Well fuck, I forgot what I was gonna say. We been hitched fer 12 years. I made her wait 7 years before that before I asked. Hey, a man has to make sure she’s the right gal, right? We sown lots of time apart since my hours at work suck ass. That seems to really help us not hate each other though.


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